How Jamaicans can tell the difference between Love and Infatuation

Love can be easily confused with infatuation. Jamaicans and people over the world may feel that they love someone, especially a Jamaican man, but it really may be infatuation.

Finding a lover in these modern times requires matchmakers and dating websites (Deer, 2016, March 8) that cost a fortune. This is also true of real love as opposed to infatuation; it’s priceless and very hard to find.

So what are the signs of true love versus infatuation?

Love versus Infatuation – There can only be one Fandom

For one, the person who loves you tries everything to please you (Deer, 2016, November 27) just to be around you all the time. You will also know you are in love when you put their wants before your priorities. You are also 100% open and never lie or withhold information.

You can also see a future with this one individual, as you can only love one person. Sex with this person also has a deeper connection (Deer, 2016, December 11), similar to that experienced when a younger female has sex with an older more experience male; you feel a deep connection that goes beyond pleasure.

Infatuation on the other hand, usually revolves around fantasizing about an unreachable individual every minute of the day. Like love, you also want to be around that person all the time.

But it’s not because you love them but rather because you like the idea of them liking you or just being in their company. Infatuation in a way is a lot like when girls have a fandom crush on a Social Media celebrity.

We all get this feeling at the conception of a relationship or even during a friendship. We conclude that we are in love. However, we are just going through a fandom crush; we are just obsessed with something new.

Finally, infatuation often results in the person being infatuated with multiple love interests with similar qualities; when you are truly in love, you have these feeling only for one person that you are truly a fan of always.

The final word on Love vs Infatuation – Fandoms dies but love is an eternal flame

You cannot love more than one person.  You wake up every morning and you choose if you should forgive someone by loving them or hating them and avoiding them as in the case of a breakup (Deer, 2016, November 21).

Love, therefore, is not a feeling; not an emotion. Love is a decision you make to commit to someone. Love makes you decide and allows you to choose.

When you are “in love” you to do things freely that you never saw yourself doing. This requires a deep intimacy between two souls that takes you beyond the universe and into another one where it is only you and your lover exist. The hearts and souls of two lovers are tied together by loyalty, trust and great sexual chemistry.

Loves causes you to be drawn to a person in such a manner that you are ready to commit altruism (Deer, 2017, January 4); sacrifice your very life for this person without hesitation.

Infatuation also dies really fast, just like a fandom or a crush on a social media celebrity; loves never dies and is an eternal flame.


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Our Story Tours – Jamaican Historical Tours for Schools and Tourist Groups

Our Story Tours is a specialized tour company that disseminates highly researched information on its Field Trips. Currently, Our Story Tours is having an October 2017 special on tours of the National Heroes Shrine from October 4thto 27th starting at 8:30am to 3:30pm. Tours are arranged by appointment. See Flyer below.

The cost is JA$130 per student and the Teachers are free. The tour will include stories about Jamaican Heroism including Miss Lou and Mass Ran and His Excellency Sir Howard Cooke and Herb McKinley.

Where their school field trips are concerned, the toursare centered on the school’s curriculum to provide the best focus on the needs of the students and assist the teacher in giving proper impact for the relevant subject areas, through highly knowledgeable tour guides.

Our Story Tours features many pre-packaged tours. A lot of fun awaits your school where you book a grand adventure with Our Story Tours. So what other types of tours does Our Story Tours offer?

Water Resources – A tour of the NWC, Mona Treatment Plant Sewage Plant

The tour will focus on all the different stages of water treatment before and after we use and its recycle into the natural environment. The main places of interest are the NWC and the Mona Treatment Plant Sewage Plant. 

Marine Environment and Built Environment – A Tour of Marine Labs and Natural Harbours

The Tour covers the Port Royal Marine Lab, Discovery Bay Marine Lab, Montego Bay Marine Park, Kingston Harbour and Sandy Gully. This is a tour that looks at the marine environment of Jamaica.

The tour includes a lecture on the work of marine biologists, a walkthrough of the mangroves and an optional snorkeling of the reefs. 

Coastal Features – A Tour of Natural Costal Features in various parishes

Teaching student Geography? There is a tour package for Robins Bay, St. Mary, Pamphret, St. Thomas and Manchioneal, Portland that explores Landforms created by the erosional and depositional action of marine forces on the coastlines of land masses. All of these features can be seen at Robins Bay, St.Mary.

Factories and Farming Tour – A Tour to explore Manufacturing in Jamaica

This tour focuses on visiting or mining and manufacturing plants. On the list are Worthy Park, when Rum is made and the various Bauxite Works from JAMALCO in Clarendon to ALPART in Nain, St. Elizabeth.

There are also tours of Food Processing plants such as Grace Canning, JP Foods,Trade Winds, Pepsi and Maidstone Cheese Factory. Finally there is an aspect to this tour that involves a visit to a preselected set of farms, specifically the Serge Island Estate, Content Farms, Green Castle Estate and Kendall Farm and Bodles.

Tourism, Museums and Arts and Music – The heartbeat of Jamaican culture

Tourism is the number one industry in Jamaica today, the country’s largest earner of foreign exchange and fast becoming the largest employer of the work force. This tour involves Falmouth Cruise Ship Pier, All-inclusive Hotel, Green Grotto Caves, Dunn’s River Falls and Seville Great House.

The Museums aspect of the tour includes the Institute of Jamaica -Ethnographic & Natural History, Peoples Museum of Craft and Technology, Devon House, The National Archives, Stony Gut, National Art Gallery INAFCA Museum at the Mico University, the Seville Great House and the Money Museum.

From the Arts and Music enthusiasts, there is also a specially packaged tour for the Bob Marley Museum, Tuff Gong Studio, Institute of Jamaica -Ethnographic & Natural History.

Our Story Tours – Book a tour for your school or organization

There are so many Our Story Tours covering all aspect of the Jamaica as listed on the images of the informative pamphlet shown above. Feel free to make contact and book your school or organization for a Tour today.


Our Story Tours

3 South Avenue,


Kingston 5, Jamaica

Call or WhatsApp: 1-876-377-5693


How Jamaicans can make US$1000 per month as a Freelancer

Freelancers enjoy a more flexible work schedule. It’s the easiest and fastest ways to start working online with minimal start-up cost.

A freelancer or freelance worker is an independent contractor who is self-employed; in essence you choose the clients you wish to work with and the projects on which you work. Freelancing in some of these popular fields:

  • Accounting
  • Acting
  • Article writing
  • Computer programming
  • Consulting
  • Editing
  • Event planning
  • Filmmaking
  • Graphic design
  • Illustrating
  • Language translating
  • Marketing
  • Music
  • Photography
  • Proofreading
  • Publishing
  • Tour guiding
  • Video editing
  • Video production
  • Web design
  • Writing e.g. song writing

With no long term commitments to any specific employer, this might seem a bit scary. But freelancing has its benefits both to the employer paying for your time as well as to you the freelancer.

Benefits to the Employer – The Freelancer’s Reverse Benefit

Many employers welcome using freelancers to get work done. This as freelancers save them money as they forgoe having to make a permanent commitment as they do with regular employees. Freelance work offers tremendous advantages and can represent an attractive alternative to a traditional job.

Still, if you plan to quit your traditional job and start a freelance business, know that there is no turning back. The best time to start a business is while you are still traditionally employed and start off on a part-time basis.

If you are considering a freelance career, you should explore the advantages and disadvantages of freelancing.

Advantages and Disadvantages of Freelancing – Working in your flip-flops has its downside

The advantages of freelancing are as follows:

  • Building self-asset
  • Eliminate commute
  • Flexible hours
  • Freedom and control
  • Global workplace
  • Independence
  • Learn new skills
  • Relaxed dress code
  • Tax benefits
  • Unlimited income potential

However, before you make the plunge, consider the disadvantages of being a freelancer:

  • Absent Benefits
  • Accountability
  • Compromise
  • Start-up Cash Investment
  • Variable Workloads & Income

So how does one become a Freelancer?

How to Become a Freelancer – The Three Step Process to Freedom

The Steps towards becoming a Freelancer are as follows:

  1. Identify Your Skills
  2. Create a Portfolio
  3. Promotion

You’ll find that you have secondary skills that are freelancing opportunities. Identify a market where your expert skills and knowledge can be of value to clients.

Then you need to specialize, which is basically finding your niche. Specialization will make you more attractive to specific groups of clienteles and increase your chance of success. Be good at what you do and love doing what you do; Quality is better than quantity.

Once you’ve done this creating a portfolio of your best work is always a good idea. It is an asset as it demonstrates your skill and proves to clients that you are able to complete projects.

It may be difficult to build a quality portfolio without experience; most artists begin building their portfolios while still in high school and Art College. This gives them a head start over the competition.

So while at college use some of that spare time to start your portfolio. Take pictures of your completed projects, asks your boss for positive feedback to use as testimonials. Doing pro bono (free) work in the beginning to gain necessary experience is good; ensure that you perform your best to receive positive recommendations. Do a lot of volunteer and paid work on the side in exchange for work testimonials from these paying clients.

Produce quality work and you will get quality testimonials and even referrals. Remember, Networking and verbal referrals are the first real advertisements.

Finally you need to do a lot of self-promotion, which can be via Flyers (Deer, 2017, March 26), billboards, Newspaper ads or free ads on websites (Deer, 2017, August 26). Regardless of your expertise, you may have some difficulty in securing jobs. But once you identify what you need to do to attract clients; you will be well on your way.

A few guiding tips in promoting yourself:

  1. Do research continually to see what kind of pricing your competitors are offering
  2. Set up a Social Media Presence or Professional website to market yourself and your business to gain more clients
  3. Constantly contact prospective customers through all the media services at your fingertips
  4. Present the passion you have for your skill

Becoming a Freelancer in Jamaica – Best Freelancing websites

As usual, you have to have the following things in place:

  1. Paypal Account (Deer, 2015, September 9) as your main Payment Gateway
  2. Payoneer Account (Deer, 2015, September 10), an Bank of America Prepaid Debit Card
  3. Scotia VISA Debit (Deer, 2012, February 13) or CIBC First Caribbean VISA Debit Card
  4. Broadband Internet at home from FLOW or Digicel Play (Deer, 2016, June 28)
  5. Notebook or Journal to keep Track of all your Online Accounts and Passwords
  6. Portfolio of Published Written Work on a blog or Website online i.e. Blogs, e-books
  7. A VPN (Virtual Private Network) Connection
  8. A Friend or relative living abroad

You’ll need the Paypal Account (Deer, 2015, September 9) to be able to receive payments from Credit Card purchases (Deer, 2013, September 16) and the Payoneer Account (Deer, 2015, September 10) to be able to spend locally. The Scotia VISA Debit Card (Deer, 2012, February 13) or CIBC First Caribbean VISA Debit Card is just to verify your Paypal Account.

Broadband Internet at home from FLOW or Digicel Play (Deer, 2016, June 28) is a must. A friend or relative abroad with a US address is also great.  But you can easily use your ShipMe (Deer, 2013, September 15) address to sign up for some of these surveys and a free VPN on smartphones and now Desktop computers (Deer, 2016, September 20) thanks to the Opera Browser and Free VPN Platforms (Deer, 2017, June 11) now coming to light.

So now you know how to start, here’s a list of the best Freelancing website that you can sign up to and start earning:

If you are a blogger, you’ll love these sites:

Some of these websites offer employment and as such are really part-time employment; basically an employed freelancer:

Last Words- Fiverr is a good place to start Freelancing

Most of them pay via Paypal (Deer, 2017, April 14) which allows you to request a check but some of them do direct wire transfers or Moneygram payments.

I’m currently on Fiverr as the Jamaican Rabbit where I make about US$100 on average per month doing Press Releases for this very same blog. As with any online job, you have to promote your weblink for your online profile to get work; having a website as a portfolio of works helps immensely.

Sharing is caring so share this with as many of your friend who plan to switch to becoming Freelancers!!


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The Best Premium PDF Editors Free for Jamaicans to download

When it comes to Editing PDF, sometimes you just can’t best the real thing!!

Yes there are free PDF Editing options out there (Deer, 2015, September 20) that do a wonderful job. But while most of them can convert Word to PDF, it’s good to note they cannot merge separate PDF documents very well.

This is a feature only available in the following PDF Editors:

Click on the above to download the PDF Editors. Sharing is caring so share this post with all of your friends!!!


  1. Deer, L. (2015, September 20). Why these Freeware PDF Editors can replace Microsoft Office and Adobe Acrobat. Retrieved from